Episode 34 – Giving Yourself Grace Based on Your Journey

Show Notes

Welcome back to the season finale of the young+creatives podcast! In our last episode of the season, Christian, Mikayla, and Sidney all sit down to discuss what their experiences and struggles have been ‘growing up young’, what they wished they knew, and reflect on moments that took them by surprise. Thank you guys so much for helping us get to episode 12, we wouldn’t have been able to do this without our listeners! In this episode of young+creatives we cover several key topics including:
  • Starting a full time business at 22
  • Not being prepared to lose friendships
  • Holding myself accountable
  • Reminding myself, I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be
  • It’s not the individual things, its the overall process
  • My experience with marriage at 22
  • Having the hard conversations
  • Separating what’s real from what’s fake
  • Advice we’d give ourselves 1 year ago
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Team RMG  00:00 Welcome to the young creatives podcast brought to you by our vision Marketing Group. Young creative will serve as a platform to promote, discuss and give advice on Millennial creatives coexist in a traditional job   Christian Payton  00:18 Welcome back to the Creators Podcast. Whoo. Okay, so   Mikayla Anderson  00:24 today you we have Mikayla Anderson, Christian Payton, and the one and only Cindy Jackson, who is currently fixing his microphone. Yes.   Sidney Jackson  00:34 Sure. Hey, yo.   Mikayla Anderson  00:38 Okay, well,   Christian Payton  00:40 today’s episode is going to be fine, I think. But it’s our last episode for the season. So this is season one. The first season? How do you feel my first census was your baby? How do you feel about   Mikayla Anderson  00:55 this? It’s not just my baby. Well,   Christian Payton  00:59 yeah, it’s not just you, but you know, just came on, like two months ago. So I’m like, it’s not really my baby as much as it is yours.   Mikayla Anderson  01:06 I feel like a mother and watching my child grow too fast. That’s it. That’s all I got.   Sidney Jackson  01:16 That’s a really good one. For me, for like season one and season two. I feel relieved. One is because 12 episodes went by extremely quickly. We had some really good guests on there, and some internal one. So I’m super relieved that it went well. And then season two is gonna be a lot   Mikayla Anderson  01:38 more accurate. Yeah, it’s   Christian Payton  01:40 a great word crisp,   Mikayla Anderson  01:41 clean. Maybe some new branding.   Christian Payton  01:45 I mean, there was trial and error for season one, too. So we know like, we did that last time. We really like seasoning   Mikayla Anderson  01:50 under our belt. Yeah.   Sidney Jackson  01:53 A lot of it. Especially within these last two weeks, to close up. Season One. Um, so it’s, yeah,   Mikayla Anderson  02:02 absolutely. Absolutely. So today, before we jump into the episode, we have a story. Well, first, what is our story about?   Christian Payton  02:12 Are we telling the story right now?   Mikayla Anderson  02:14 No, you got to tell us like why we’re telling the story. Like, what are we doing?   Christian Payton  02:19 Oh, yes, yes, yeah. So we are doing a food drive for the holiday season. So last last week, we were doing like our creative session for our social media, which we do every month. And we were just sitting talking about, like what we could do for the month of December, and the idea of a food drive came to us. So we’re going to be doing a food drive from now until December 17. And we titled it food for thought. And it’s small businesses working together to help our neighbors. And all of the proceeds are going to be donated to Christian service. And you can donate like cash, or money like monetary donations can be made to their cash app, which is the dollar sign at Christian service LA.   Sidney Jackson  03:05 Yep. And that organization doesn’t have any affiliation with Christian.   Christian Payton  03:10 Not me. Not at all. I actually didn’t ask me that. He was like, Is this you? I’m like, No, it’s not me. It has nothing to do with me at all. It’s just a great nonprofit here in the Shreveport motor area.   Mikayla Anderson  03:22 Absolutely. Yes. So that was our first big event. So today, we had the privilege to go on the Christian service campus and tour the facility with Mr. Owl. Shout out to Mr. Owl are the best if you’re listening to this. Um, but yeah, so we went and toured the campus, we got to take some photos got to learn a little bit more about their mission. What they do for the community are amazing. So good. Yeah, so good. And soon after that, we were able to pick up the flyers do we have   Christian Payton  03:57 we don’t have a flyer near us, but that’s okay. It was gonna hold it up, but we don’t have one.   Mikayla Anderson  04:02 Watch our podcast on YouTube shortly. Anyways. So yeah, we went and got the flyers and then we had to go get   Christian Payton  04:11 we got the flyers from a from a small business here in Shreveport as well. So support small businesses. Absolutely. Yes.   Sidney Jackson  04:17 Yeah. Ups.   Mikayla Anderson  04:18 Yeah. Yeah. And so we were gonna go get boxes and wrapping paper to decorate the box to have like, one general donation location.   Christian Payton  04:32 Which is down here was on the first floor of the office. Yes.   Mikayla Anderson  04:37 Um, so we went to Walmart. We did you want to?   Christian Payton  04:42 So we went to Walmart, and we were looking for like a box that was big enough for the canned goods because we’re going to get so many donations like, that’s wishful thinking. So we needed something that was going to be big enough to hold all of our donations. Walmart didn’t have anything. So me and Mikayla were like, well, they should be able to donate a box for us like they get like inventory all the time like they have boxes. But the workers were just not that friendly at all. Like, we don’t have them. They’re broken down. We can’t help you.   Mikayla Anderson  05:10 Yeah. It was not it. Like we weren’t at first, we went to the office section. And we didn’t find a box big enough. Nothing. And then we found they were like, trying to give us boxes that were just like, either laying around the store. No good. No good for us that just weren’t like it. And so we saw one that like, really caught our eye, which is the one that we ended up getting that we just wrapped Sydney. Mm hmm. So the box that we got, had like   Christian Payton  05:43 candle wax in it on the floor of Walmart.   Mikayla Anderson  05:50 The box had candle wax at it. And it was used for like a display shelf. And Walmart. There was only like, four or five candle waxes in it. And so we were like, oh,   Christian Payton  06:03 but mind you Walmart was packed today. Like nobody was at work.   Sidney Jackson  06:06 We would Yeah. Yeah.   Christian Payton  06:10 So we moved the candle wax unto another display with candle wax. And, and we we work together. We work together to put the box it was so big. We had to like turn it upside down. People are watching us on Walmart do this. Me and Mikayla put the box in our buggy. And she it was so big she couldn’t even see. I was like pulling it pulling the buggy from the front. And she was pushing it from the back. We went through self self checkout, we bought the paper and the bows and we we came back to work around   Mikayla Anderson  06:45 Now one question asked by any Walmart employee. They are duration there.   Sidney Jackson  06:53 Okay, so I’m not sure we’ll put this one in the episode because that’s kind of like stealing maybe is it? Is we got this night because we just got   Mikayla Anderson  07:04 it was a donation.   Christian Payton  07:05 No, it definitely was a donation from Walmart. Okay.   Sidney Jackson  07:10 So we’re not going to say the Walmart name, but it’s a store. A store. Yeah. Okay. No, I’m kidding. It should be fine. I’m gonna be mine. And I’m a snitch on y’all.   Christian Payton  07:21 Are y’all just totally just missing ourselves? Yeah.   Mikayla Anderson  07:24 Do you think we should start over? No.   Christian Payton  07:26 I think it’ll be fine. I think it’ll be fine. It was literally a box that was Degner empty. Okay, and we didn’t still candle wax. We didn’t steal anything. We put the candle wax to the side like a giant box. They were gonna throw it in the trash. Yeah.   Sidney Jackson  07:41 Or recycle it? No way.   Christian Payton  07:43 It’s nothing   Mikayla Anderson  07:46 but it this way. This box. We did it for a good purpose, though. So.   Christian Payton  07:51 So they’re helping we can go to bed. I’m gonna go to bed like I’m gonna sleep well tonight.   Sidney Jackson  07:57 Yeah, I’m pretty sure that’s what all criminal say? Well, we did it for a good cause. Oh my god, it should be fun.   Christian Payton  08:03 And then after that, we went and got food from Tropical Smoothie Cafe another small business locally owned in Bowsher Louisiana. So   Sidney Jackson  08:12 Bonjour. Stand up. Yes.   Christian Payton  08:15 Okay, now we can actually get into the episode, the topic for today is that you should avoid   Mikayla Anderson  08:19 that funny little we thought it was really had to kick it off, especially for the final episode of the season. Just to give you a little   Christian Payton  08:28 behind the scenes of what’s going on.   Mikayla Anderson  08:30 Yeah, it’s chaos, controlled chaos, but   Sidney Jackson  08:33 good chaos in the year chaos.   Mikayla Anderson  08:38 Okay. On this episode of young creatives, we’re going to be talking about something that I feel like a lot of people can relate to, in this day of age are going through. Like, I don’t know if my mom would say that she did this. Well.   Christian Payton  08:59 I mean, at some point, just   Mikayla Anderson  09:02 okay. Growing up young, right. I feel like this is a bigger topic than what it was before. Because the different ways that we’re quote, unquote, growing up are different than what our parents, our grandparents,   Christian Payton  09:21 it’s different than it’s ever been before. Just based off of like technology alone.   Mikayla Anderson  09:25 Absolutely. Absolutely. So Sydney. You are 2525   Sidney Jackson  09:33 going on. 40. Yes. Oh,   Mikayla Anderson  09:36 yep. So how do you like how do you feel that like you started your business at 2322 22   Christian Payton  09:51 We did this math last week. 22 I   Mikayla Anderson  09:55 think 22 years old. You started your own business   Sidney Jackson  09:58 or full time, full time. I’m yes old time.   Mikayla Anderson  10:01 So how hard was that for you at the age of 22, to say, Okay, I’m gonna start my own business full time.   Sidney Jackson  10:11 I’m extremely awkward, but I learned a lot. didn’t make a lot of money, still not making a lot of money. But initially, that was the objective. Because, well, coming out from Monroe in New Orleans, it was like, Hey, we are broke. So we need some cash. So when I went into the business full time, I still was like, super broke, especially right out of college. So, but at the same time, I didn’t have a lot of expenses, such as like a mortgage, or kids to take care of my wife or my girlfriend at the time. She didn’t spend a lot. So it wasn’t, it wasn’t like a big jump. But definitely tough. Because you didn’t know where the next revenue would come from. But I think it’s really just all about pacing yourself. So for me, I’m, well frugal. Some people when I say cheap, Krishna say use the word. Yeah. I think I like the word cheap.   Christian Payton  11:16 Better, though. That’s I’ve never heard that before.   Sidney Jackson  11:20 So I’m cheap. I don’t spend a lot of money in when revenue comes into the business, you just kind of tuck it away for a rainy day. Yeah. I don’t know if I answered the question. But   Mikayla Anderson  11:35 you did. So like, as far as, like, starting the business and everything. I just can’t see myself starting my own business at 22. Like, I don’t know, what the heck you had over there? Like, did you already know you wanted to do that?   Sidney Jackson  11:56 Yes. Well, I didn’t, I didn’t know it was gonna come so fast. Right. Um, and then working with the Small Business Development Center and learning so much from about entrepreneurship from entrepreneurs. That allowed me to learn as much as possible one, but it didn’t really prepare me for the real as far as like entrepreneurship, you as the individual gone through it. But yeah, didn’t didn’t truly have a choice as far as like entrepreneurship and going into it full time. I still had the business. And I was laid off due to budget cuts and stuff like that. So it was the perfect opportunity. One, and it helped happen a lot quicker than I thought it was. But everything just kind of played out, I think are still playing out in a sense.   Mikayla Anderson  12:56 So with you, Christian. Well, first, okay, so I was when I was preparing for this episode, I was going through the internet and basically just like searching like adulting struggles, as adulting is like a word that us we use. Yeah, us Millennials Gen Z’s whatever the heck. I’m so I was reading a Reddit thread. And what what is an adult problem that you are not prepared for?   Christian Payton  13:30 There were so many adult problems, and I felt like I wasn’t prepared for, um, and there’s really no way to prepare for anything. As far as like, growing up, I feel like becoming an adult. Like that’s a whole nother subject. Okay, so one that I was not prepared for, I would say maybe like not talking to or like losing friends. I think. I feel like that was one like losing friends and like, just, like outgrowing each other like going down different paths. Or like even like when you do talk to a friend that you didn’t really lose contact with like the conversation is not the same. So when I was like 18, or 19, I could call my friend, my best friend and say, Hey, do you want to do this? Do you want to do that? Or like, let’s do let’s go this place or, like, we could just talk for hours. And that’s not the case anymore, cuz she’s married with a child and she lives in Dallas. So just like going different paths in life wasn’t an adult struggle that I think you can prepare for. I wasn’t prepared. Yeah, I   Mikayla Anderson  14:40 definitely wasn’t prepared for that either. I guess like, it’s okay, though. Yeah, go down different paths. I think it’s so like, I don’t know if it’s just me. But that was like, it took me a while to realize like it’s okay. It’s heartbreaking that yeah, that these people had a time and a place in my life. And that’s okay. Like, I don’t need them the entire duration of my life. And that’s like a big swallow of pride because they don’t need me the entire duration.   Sidney Jackson  15:15 Yeah, this is definitely true. Because I have a best friend, Tyler. And he’s, well, I think he’s in Hawaii now. He, he’s in a military, and he started a family. And then we stuck. Me and my wife and kids and everything like that. And in high school, we were extremely close. And then we kind of separated as far as like Tolkin, every now and then from college. And then it just reports from near in a sense, we still keep in touch, every now and then. And still my friend, but not on a level that it wasn’t. Yeah, high school, which is, is different. But it’s still like, a friendship. It’s just not as much as it was because you see everybody or each other every day. And now it’s like you see, you build more relationships with the people that you see every day. And I’m still kind of Santa contact with other people. Other friends from Yeah, high school and everything.   Christian Payton  16:14 It’s, um, that and taxes. That really what I was gonna say, I wasn’t hacking   Sidney Jackson  16:22 taxes. Yeah, I think, um, as far as prepping, I think it was a way to prep us for like doing taxes, right. From a school standpoint, a parenting standpoint, or just education overall, because taxes is fun. So I did taxes I think for the first time in 2018 2019, maybe for the first time of your life? I think so. Not I can be right.   Christian Payton  16:53 My first time was like two years ago. Really?   Sidney Jackson  16:55 I think it was my when I first went to college, so that was 2015 2015 2016. But with dad, it was just my personal taxes. And then I had to do the business tax. That’s a whole thing. It’s fun. Yeah. So now how your CPA to do the business taxes.   Christian Payton  17:18 That’s a whole thing.   Sidney Jackson  17:21 It’s definitely a lot.   Christian Payton  17:23 The smallest things like Caleb, when we were doing a soundcheck, you’re like, What am I going to eat for dinner? That was something we never have to think about as children, because we ate what our moms made. Or we complained about it. And then like she made something else. Either way, we didn’t have to think about it ourselves. Right? It’s like always something as an adult, like if it’s not one, or you know the same   Mikayla Anderson  17:43 thing, or like cleaning your house the same.   Christian Payton  17:46 If it’s not one thing, it’s another Yeah. And that’s like true when you’re like when you’re an adult. It’s not one thing. It’s like something else. Yep.   Sidney Jackson  17:55 I’m seven. Yeah, it’s always a lot. It’s always a lot that you took for granted as like a child, such as like mom cooking, right? Yeah. And I think what well, when we complained about it, she was like, well, and that’s how you’re gonna eat. That’s definitely okay. Be hungry if you’re not going to eat the red beans and rice every Monday. But   Mikayla Anderson  18:20 cheese and hot dogs   Sidney Jackson  18:24 Yeah, so I think Well, I definitely took it for granted like the preparation because my mom loves cooking. I absolutely hate it. Because it’s, it’s not time consuming. It’s just like, I’d rather be doing something else. Yeah, other than cooking.   Christian Payton  18:40 Yeah, it takes patience to   Sidney Jackson  18:42 but sometimes I find myself enjoying it when I have the ability to really just kind of like slow down. But you still have to cook every single day. So it’s like yeah,   Mikayla Anderson  18:57 well then if you’re not doing that, then you have to clean the house or do the laundry or no, I’m getting stressed out I’m thinking of all the different things I need to do when I get home.   Christian Payton  19:08 I’m not   Mikayla Anderson  19:10 pay for it paying for car insurance,   Christian Payton  19:13 gas. I hate paying for gas like I missed the days where like I had a car and I got my insurance paid for. I’ve got my gas paid for   Mikayla Anderson  19:21 care. And I don’t have to worry about that. Yeah, do   Christian Payton  19:26 you know you do though?   Sidney Jackson  19:28 I do. Guess how much it is per minute how much you got to guess.   Christian Payton  19:34 For you. Your wife and two children for me.   Sidney Jackson  19:37 Adeline Victoria Breeland   Mikayla Anderson  19:40 $700 More   Christian Payton  19:42 You’re lying $900 No more grand your dollar. It’s   Sidney Jackson  19:47 1100   Mikayla Anderson  19:52 That’s insane. That’s it rent. That was literally my rent.   Sidney Jackson  19:58 That’s more than our mortgage. and home insurance right now.   Christian Payton  20:01 That’s insane. Especially if you never get sick.   Sidney Jackson  20:05 Yeah. So I’m juggling that like because when I was a student and I’m certain that Northwestern I didn’t pay for health insurance because it was like I’m young. That’s not gonna happen right? And nothing dead thank God. But now you have or I have a wife kids just can’t juggle the wrist with the what is like 1100 Sidney   Mikayla Anderson  20:36 that is so much harder to me.   Sidney Jackson  20:38 Yeah, we are. And that’s why I’m cheap though. And we were disciplined enough to save because we’re not making a lot but with that we were able to go into cash reserves and get that situated. But but it’s not going to be like that forever so because it is not sustainable. But   Mikayla Anderson  21:00 Brian Matt military trained till the day I die   Christian Payton  21:03 on me somebody military because that is so much. So   Mikayla Anderson  21:07 he pays $5 A month is good for my health insurance. That’s wonderful. And I get all my medications for free. I don’t mean to rub it in your face.   Sidney Jackson  21:16 When it was a time when we had that were was paid for by my wife’s my wife’s company. But we are looking into health insurance for revision. Oh, word   Mikayla Anderson  21:30 I knew about this. Actually. I did a word   Sidney Jackson  21:39 because it’s expensive and it should be paid for by the employer. At least I think so. Um, and yeah, there’s a lot individually.   Mikayla Anderson  21:50 So for an example, like health insurance, how did you hold yourself accountable to like, Okay, I have to do this.   Sidney Jackson  22:02 I didn’t my wife did. Honesty. Well, I’ve held me accountable. Because I’m like, Yeah, everything is good. But well before to kids now I’m like, Yeah, we absolutely have to because kids are fine. And then Adeline with the? Yeah, the Kawasaki and she stayed in the hospital for three days. And then the bill came and it was like, a lot. But we had health insurance. So it paid for pretty much all of it. I think it was like 30,000 If I’m not mistaken. That’s insane. Insane. Indeed.   22:43 America.   Christian Payton  22:44 You can’t even afford to get sick. No. Wow, that’s important   Sidney Jackson  22:49 not to have health to share. Yeah, it’s stuff. Yeah, so as far as I’m holding accountable. Most times it’s my wife holding me accountable for like adulting things, right? From a business standpoint. Most times I hold myself accountable. But if I don’t, I make sure to share my goals and tasks and everything with other people. So they hold me accountable. Or it’s like, I feel somewhat ashamed if I don’t achieve it. Because you have set reminder because, yep. Accountability, that kind of hog. Keep up with it or go about it.   Mikayla Anderson  23:34 That’s a good way though. That is,   Christian Payton  23:37 that’s like, I’m sorry, you were talking.   Mikayla Anderson  23:39 It’s just like, that’s a lot of trust, first of all, like to have in somebody to be like, hey, I need to get this done. Well, is it?   Christian Payton  23:52 I think it takes more like, I don’t worry, yeah, you have to be able to like just like put yourself out there and say, hey, I want to do this and this and this. And then if you don’t accomplish accomplish it, it’s almost like for me, it would be like, I don’t I hate to use the word guilt. But like, I would feel like embarrassed almost because it’s like, I told you I was going to do this. And then I didn’t I didn’t come through. Yeah, and I didn’t come through for myself. So you can even depend me depend on me for certain things.   Sidney Jackson  24:18 Yeah. This is true. Yeah, so most times, it’s for those big things you you shared, but um, a lot of stuff. You kind of work within silo, and you hold yourself accountable, at least until you get to a point where it’s like, I know that I’m gonna be able to achieve this. And then you share it or you share it up front and then you really work towards it.   Christian Payton  24:46 Yeah, I see people do that in a way on Instagram. Or like if they’re like wanting to lose weight like they’d like they start like good like the journal or like a diary on Instagram of like, day one. Oh, yeah. And they post every single day so that like their followers can like, hold, even if their followers like aren’t really paying attention. It’s like, I have these people following me. And I said that I was going to do it. So I have to do it because I said I would someone’s watching. Yeah, someone’s watching you. So it’s, it’s the equivalent, I feel. How do you hold yourself accountable Mikayla?   Mikayla Anderson  25:23 See, that’s the hard part. Because   Sidney Jackson  25:30 Sydney hoes are accountable.   Mikayla Anderson  25:33 It’s so hard because it’s like, I feel like I do these certain things throughout the day, not because I need to get them done. But because I need How do I put it not because I need to get it done. But because I want this to be better for this reason. So like, if I’m working on a company’s website, it’s not I need to get this done to meet a deadline. It’s, I need to help them improve their audience or blah, blah, blah, blah, because they’re relying on me to do that. Like, having that mindset, rather than being like, I need to get these pages done today. That’s good. And that took me a very, very long time, because I remember coming in through a vision and being so micro minded about every single element on the page. And now it’s like, it’s like nine day honestly, I can see way higher than I ever thought I would be able to so I love it. But I was so stressed out before Wow. I’m chilling now, but not in a good way.   Sidney Jackson  26:52 Okay. But, but that sounds like a deeper level of accountability. Because it’s not like on specific tasks, items persuade, per se. Of course, it’s like a website or a different project, you have these due dates, but the accountability runs deeper because you have buy in with the client, and you are trying to make their business better. And I think for like accountability, accountability, gee whiz, accountability, like that. It transitions to other areas of life, right? Because if I am, so say, Take, for instance, me and my family, with healthcare and stuff like that. It’s like, okay, we know that we need 1100 additional amount are from savings and stuff like that. The Accountability isn’t me, or my wife saying, Hey, we have to pay this. The accountability is what happens if we don’t? Yeah, the family putting them in jeopardy if we don’t, and that transition is back to the client, where it’s like, Okay, we have to get this website out, or it is social media out by this deadline. But it’s a lot more at stake than this. So that’s what’s holding me accountable. Not the actual due date, if that makes sense.   Mikayla Anderson  28:19 Which also is kind of a fear factor for me, though, because like, it’s scary, because I get so it’s good, and it’s bad. I get so emotionally involved in things that if they don’t go a certain way, I just like, freak out. I’m like, I don’t know what to do. I think I’m getting better at it. But   Sidney Jackson  28:42 yes, you are.   Mikayla Anderson  28:45 That’s good. It was so hard at first, that’s a part   Christian Payton  28:49 of like the growing up young or like the growth process. Yeah.   Mikayla Anderson  28:56 So I want to ask you a question. Because I take a deep breath. Yeah, no, okay. Oh, so we were talking about this like a little bit. Like I think it was like a couple weeks ago, but like, trying to figure out like seeing all of your peers on social media either getting engaged or having children. I was gonna say babies having children or buying houses and everything and like how do you think like, how do you handle that   Christian Payton  29:35 girl? That’s everything I’m not doing so sometimes it’s it’s really hard some sometimes it is like, very difficult to like not compare yourself. Just because it’s like, what’s wrong with me? Or like, what am I doing wrong? Or like, I had my life planned out that this way or that way or, you know, XYZ like you can like go down a rabbit hole of like comparing yourself and like wondering Like, why it’s not you, within, like, I have conversation conversations with my older sister all the time, or my best friend or just like getting just like hearing different stories from people that like have things that like, I’m trying to like, that I want, and I don’t have right now. And like, it’s just it’s not, it’s not always what you think it is. So like, I’m not married right now. But marriage just work like it’s hard work. And so that I’m like, You know what? I don’t want to fight fair all the time. So I’m glad I’m not married. Like, honestly, yeah. Or like, even like, not like, having your house like being a homeowner. I was renting for a long time, like an apartment. And I see people my age, like, having homes. And I’m like, that’s amazing. Like, why don’t I have that, but then I’m thinking, I’m like, well, Christian, like when something messes up, like that’s on them, like, you have like a maintenance wing, and you can call, like, that’s not your responsibility. So really just realizing, like, it’s not really always what it seems like, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, and constantly having to remind yourself that, like, you’re exactly where or me constantly having to remind myself like, I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be, like, if anything else, small change, I wouldn’t even be sitting here having this conversation with you right now. So just like constantly, like, telling myself that preaching that to myself. Because I mean, once you like, tell yourself something over and over again, like you start to believe it. So like, just constantly like speaking to yourself in that way, like telling yourself like, you know, like, you’re where you’re supposed to be. So it’s fine. Like, when it happens, it happens. You’re going to enjoy it that much more, but appreciate these moments right now.